How Do You Forgive?

[eternaloptimist]

Are you sure it's over?

There is no "quickly" getting over it. Both the affair itself, and the marital conditions which led to him being open to it, will need to be addressed. I would suggest a good marriage counselor, who specializes in cases of infidelity.

Puppy

Hi, Puppy. Thanks for your post. H says that he has no more contact with her and that he never wanted to have an affair with her. He said he didn't do anything more than shake her hand. Whenever I question him about it, he gets so angry and says, "You are never going to forgive me. I didn't have sex with her, I didn't want to, why won't you let this go?" He wants me to destroy the emails so we can put it behind us. How do I know it is over? I can't trust him and I don't want to hire a PI.