It's automatic when you feel it

[Bagheera]

I wish simply handing a book to her *would* solve our problems, at least I thought it would be that simple last year.

I'm not trying to imply that a fix could be that simple -- it won't or can't be. It will take months of hard work for both of you, even if she does come fully on-board and wants to achieve an intimate, high-functioning marriage with you.

However, what she DOES need is an epiphany, a [LIGHT BULB] moment that says two things to her: (1) Ah! This is what he's been talking about! This is what's been missing for all of these years, and (2) I want this for ME too! We could do this!

That's what you need, and I waa just tossing a potential tool at you for achieving it.

-- B.