but if if it has and shes back and OM knows your now a contender again and shes SUPPOSED to be working on her marriage and HE KNOWS ALL THIS...
then learn to overlook the liklihood they're still emailing for a while. it'll come to a bad end by itself and its not a bad thing. ie dont freak out about the idea - not in the early days - dont or she could run again -
FF, with all due respect, I think you're talking out of both sides of your mouth. You cannot simultaneously warn LBSs on here about the dangerous conflagrations of affairs, and also say "learn to overlook that your pyromaniac wayward spouse is playing with the matches a little bit again."
Just seems incongruous to me.
It's also a physiological fact what happens when contact is allowed to happen -- even e-mail, even something BAD about their formerly-wonderful OM/OW. The brain's endorphines re-fire, and then the withdrawal "clock" in his wife gets re-set back to 0:00 again.
Contact is contact, and it's damaging to the marriage, and her deceit about it is even more damaging -- in my opinion. Wildfires do eventually "die a natural death," but sometimes it's only after doing unimaginable damage and destruction.
