Kev, I think the problem is, I think the 'nice guys' need to find 'nice girls'. What's been happening is that us nice girls look for the 'exciting guy' or the 'most popular guy' and is not giving the nice guy a chance and vice versa.
I am realizing this now and will make a mental note. That's why I put the list together. To remind myself what would be compatible with me, what type of qualities would work and what wouldn't. If I like someone but he is a total jerk with strangers, that's not good. It's a statment about his character. Or if he loves being home with me but is disrespectful to my family members, it would never work.
Though I agree, I need to be flexible on some of the items on the list, like fitness and food, those are not TOO important in the grand scheme of things.
I just hope you are right. I hope there are real people out there like that and I hope they have not become bitter people. I tried very hard in the last two years not to be bitter but to retain the parts of myself which I cherish, the sweetness, the kindness and compassion parts. I don't even want to be bitter, spewing hate or be distant with my friends. Part of the reason is that I want to model good behavior for my kids, partly because I like to retain the best parts of myself, to not let bad experiences weather away those good things.
But I will continue to hope. I want to have my eyes open for the rest of my life, to not fall asleep at the wheel so to speak.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
