another newcomer - thread #2

[SavingMyMarriage]

I think this is positive. Good job! I share Nicole's opinion regarding your W saying "even if we reconcile"... This to me is a positive sign since she appears to be thinking more about it. Plus, I think she is stressed because she believes that moving out may not be the right decision now.

I remember when my W was in a similar situation last year -- she would approach me when she couldn't concentrate with her studies or if she had "too much" on her mind. She did tell me that she didn't think that my actions would last either. She was afraid that I would revert to the old H. Her concern though is that she still didn't feel "loved" by me and therefore she didn't "feel" anything for me. From previous posts, it sounds like your W is acknowleding that she may still have feelings for you, but she is concerned about the way she was treated in the past. This might be my optimistic side here, but it sounds like your hard work is starting to pay off.

As you wrote, don't give up and keep the DB going strong. I think last year, when my wife said she was starting to fall back in love with me, I kind of let go a little when I should have kicked it up a notch.