Can anyone answer this? Part 8

[brandnewday]

I think people grow tired of thier life and take off to get another one. I do believe that people think they have "missed out" and they end up making fools of themselves, but I don't think its an illness

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Hey BH,

I think many of us, if not most of us have had moments when we have thought about a new life. We get tired of our daily mundane life and think that there has to be something better then this. The difference is that most of us are mature enough and responsible enought NOT to act on it.

It takes either HUGE balls or mental illness to actually act on it and walk out the front door when there is no reason to leave your family other then simple selfishness and self entitlement.

For me, it was easier to believe that my H really had a mental illness. Partly because he really was nuts and had become the complete oposite of the Man I married. Partly because it was easier for me to cope believing that he wasn't in his right mind.

I also think that had my Husband been able to come to me and tell me how unhappy he was, and wanted to work on the Marriage rather then running away it would have been easier to handle. Then throw in the OW, the lies and the deceit.....

This is the part that none of seem to be prepared for, the bomb.It just comes out of left field.

It used to make me wonder how I could have been so blind and not seen the changes or check the cell phone bills, or question some of the things he did.