Thanks, my DB coach said my situation was unique and that I needed to subtly initiate contact from time to time. The reason is my wife needs to see a spontaneous and confident side of me that was compromised when we moved in with her twin sister after her H died. She said that part of the reason we are in this situation is that twin sister (inadvertantly) gotten in the way of our M enough that there was no way we could be spontaneous and have true cultivating alone time. Anyway, I need to find opportunities to talk to my W alone so she can see any changes I have made over the last few weeks. The coach also believes my wife thinks I gave in too easily with separation. That her "what about us?" spiel holds merit. That I need to make sure my W still sees I care and have the door open for her. This seems like it will be a hard situation to balance the fact that she needs space but I need to be around enough to show interest. Incidently we chatted on FB chat for a little while. She sent me a few of the silly little icon faces so I think she was pleased to hear from me. She did ask how my family was taking the news and I was pretty vague.
