Don't call your lawyer yet. Shoot her a delicate email simply stating you would have liked to have had them this weekend instead of them being at her moms. Remind her (nicely) of the right of first refusal issue. Don't start fights yet. Just state your case and leave it at that.
One more thing, your a parent right???? I don't give a crap what she is calling you about, call her back because one of these days it will bite you in the ass if she cant get ahold of you or you dont respond and it is regarding a serious kid issue. You call her back, if its not about the kids, then say adios.
Your primary responsibility is as a dad so just return the stupid calls.
Now that I think about it, I'm not going to even bring it up right now. I'm sure her mom and sister take better care of them anyway.
It's not worth getting into at this point. If she doesn't want to spend time with them it's her loss. I have a feeling she will just accuse me of keeping them from her parents.
T, I think that is the way to go right now. Just let it be. As long as they are taken care of, it is good for them to spend time with their family. It really is wife's loss all the way around.
LMAO Kerry. Hey T, we have that too, and lo and behold they are at his moms almost every time he has them. Guess he can't hack it alone. Oh, and I too found out that he left them there for a whole afternoon and most of the night Saturday without him. My son thought he went to work. Um, yeah, not so much since he LOST HIS FREAKING JOB. Gotta love it. Maybe your exw and my stbxh are long lost soul mates??? LOL
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Nope. I really don't think they can. I don't know what she would do without her mom and sister. She is at their house every single weekend she has the kids or she will leave them there. EVERY weekend.
The last time I spoke to my ex BIL, he said something about it too.
If she wasn't worried about what other people would think, I am sure I would have full custody.
Ya know I don't know whats going on in that head of hers and I'm not even going to try to figure it out.
It just seems that the only time she wants them is when it's convenient for her.
If they are sick.....nope.
If she has something she wants to do .....nope.
She once told me she had to work and asked if I would take them. I knew this wasn't true so I said no. She then went and dumped them off at her sister's while she went out to the bar. I found out about it and just happened to show up at the bar too.
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I agree with sofaraway's comment. I tried to reason with my STBXW about taking my son to his Little League teams' trip to a Met game...to no avail. I didn't lose my temper or chew her out...but...now she is asking for time for her cousin's BD party on my day with the kids.
Hmmmm....
I would try and tell her that doing it again is unacceptable and it cannot happen again with her having to take acountability. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
