"I muse how it is very difficult to completely, emotionally, and psychically, um-marry-even with divorce- especially if there's a child. the couple has a blood bond, no matter the status of connubial intimacy. it may be that marriage, with an infant, a marriage that has been interrupted and bested by an affair, needs and will take time - no matter what and despite best or worst intentions -to have its natural ending."
"the marriage had to come to its natural conlcusion. and that had a date, in the same way a wedding has a date, and not the date any of us decided. the institution had to taper off over a period of time not revealed in the legal documents, an impossible, invisible clause, a parcel of time that can't be court-ordered, planned, known or skipped."
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
