PM Thread #6 - New Life for Number1 - Me

[Can it work]

Just thought I'd quickly catch up on your sitch PM. What your MIL is doing is completely unreasonable and you were right to send her a reply defending yourself. I can imagine I'd probably get angry about it too. She has no right to give you grief over the mess your H has made. I think you have to remember the principles of DBing even here though. Don't rise to it and don't let yourself be backed in to an argument. State your case calmly yet confidently. You have the moral high ground here and I think everyone here will agree that you're completely in the right.

Now, on to your list. Have you been looking at my profile on a social networking site? Lol. Seriously though, there are most definitely men out there who fit that description. Do you know what the frightening thing is though? Most of them are probably single. I may be bitter but I've learned through personal experience that you can have many of the qualities you've described yet still it doesn't work out. I think the key is compatibility and that's possibly a much rarer thing to find. I even have friends who pretty much tick every box on your list but have always been treated badly by women for being too 'nice'. It leaves them feeling like they're the ones who are the problem. I've then seen good people harden up after things like that and in my opinion become less of a person than they were before.

Don't give up in what you're looking for PM. They are out there. Bending on one or two of your requirements would be wise though. I'm sure the perfect man is out there but that doesn't guarantee you're going to meet him. By being a bit flexible, you've more chance of finding someone close to your list who posseses other qualities which more than make up for those he lacks. Good luck!

Kev