yea the problem is paul we cant read signals with our partner anymore bc they arent the same person, thats why that fails so baaad.
and i know this stuff from experience, never read any of these books. thats the sad thing for me... but I wish I had them at the time.
I think its time you stopped asking if going dark would do any good for THE MARRIAGE and ask if it would do good FOR YOU. it certainly has for me; ive had time to do a lot of personal growth and thinking and self realisation/love/forgiveness.
in the end if the fight comes down to saving your marriage, or your SOUL, what are you going to choose, particularly if SHE isnt fighting for the marriage. see?
it feels like giving up - but in actuality, the crisis and pain becomes so acute that in the end its not about giving up on the marriage but in fact deciding NOT TO GIVE UP ON YOUR SOUL.
When you're down to nothing, God is up to something.
