How are you feeling physically? Have you recovered?
Some facts are very hard to swallow.
You are not his emotional confidante. He does not want to be yours. This is one of the most aching, yet most indicative actions of where he is now. Having your spouse as the person you turn to seems like a given and very hard to comprehend when that stops.
This is where you GAL (get a life). Accepting what seems impossible doesn't make it worse; accepting the reality of where he is helps you move forward. Can things turn around? Maybe, but it's very difficult if there's someone else in the picture. Have you read "Not 'Just Friends'"? It's an insightful book I found very helpful.
Remember.. you cannot control what he does or says... only your actions. Choose to be positive about you, do what makes you a better person, parent, friend, daughter. Ask for help. Do, do, do. Give out what you want to receive.