I also wanted to let you know that when I read your last post it brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for reminding me that I am a far far better person than the OW is. I agree; any woman that takes up with a married man is lower than low, especially when she knows the wife AND the D7. My SIL has the view that it is a comfort issue, a car crash waiting to happen. Of course I want to agree. The main thing, especially after the weekend and hospital is that i start thinking about me now. I have to. The man that i love and that i married is the man that cares, not this man, this alien. you are right; he is driving the crisis bus and i need to step back and let him go on his journey. would love to hear from you, thank you so much for your kindness. i am a good person, who has made many mistakes in her marriage but loves and believes. i am a committed person with ethics and morals. i x