Well, your sitch has been tougher than many but we are all going to bed alone tonight.
We all feel that "who the heck is this person" feeling.
Tonight I ache for my children.
I am honestly almost ready to file for D myself. I feel so used and tossed out...but my kids...aaargh.
Please focus on you. Try to challenge yourself to committing to not posting about H on here at all for one, two or three days. Amazingly, when I did that, there was so much less drama and I felt so much better. Start with that. Tell us about YOU, about your family and what you are doing to recover and feel better...that's the only advice I've got.