It sounds to me like your sister has the right idea. You have been through so much. You need him away from you and to focus on yourself, just to be able to breathe.
My sister always asks me why I continue to be surprised by H's behavior when by now, it is predictable that he will behave like an a**hole.
You seem so surprised despite the fact that it doesn't sound like he is out of character.
You already know the drill. That whole hospital scene sounds like a nightmare and you hoped that if you were honest about how you felt, he could handle it BUT that is not realistic. He was there, he thought that should be enough and when you questioned him he lashed out. He can't be the guy that is truly there for you and you know it.
You asked for responses and so I'm trying to accommodate. You have been through so much, it is just extraordinary what you have handled. Take some space, get yourself together and then you can see where you go from there.
