Thanks for the posts, Trustingfaith and Veronica,

V, I read through some of your old threads, and what you've been though this past year is an incredible testament of your strength. A movie should be written about you!

When I look at my current situation, I can't help but blame myself for a lot of things. But I know I have to be kind to myself to get through this and accept the fact that I can't control him or the future and that I will be okay whether we reconcile or not. Detachment is so damn hard! I think I would rather have a broken leg. There are good days and bad days. Sometimes when I think I might be getting over some of the pain, I burst into tears. Thank heavens I have a dog/cat and that I found this online support.

He hasn't called/emailed since he came over with my stepson Friday night. Should I let him know that I've gone off match.com and should I be here when he moves his stuff out? I did offer to help him with that a few days ago.

Me 40
WAH 43
T 4 years
Stepson 9
H left on 5/17/09