OH AMY! MY SWEET AMY! Thank you so much for contacting me. I cried and I laughed while reading your post. Sweetie pie, you don't need any divorce recovery classes! In fact, you could probably "teach" some of them. Anyway, I am so happy that you are out there living life. I knew in my heart that you would.......I just knew.

I know it hurts so badly to see your babies over at the OW's. I think I may have told you that the stitch that broke my D and her first M up was an affair. Her H got another woman pregnant. Our D was pregnant at the time she left him. It was so hard those years our grandson was growing up......I wanted to scream at him what his dad had done, but your friend is right honey.......in time. Our GS thought his dad was the greatest thing and tried all his growing up years to be "approved" by his dad, but he was never as good as the his dad's "other" kids. I wanted him to have a good R with his dad, but it was so hard knowing what our SIL had done to our D and our GS not knowing the truth. It was not my place to tell him and our D wouldn't. But, in time the truth has a way of coming to the surface. Now, our GS does not have much to do with his D b/c he was never "approved" or accepted like the other kids.....and b/c he figured out for himself what kind of person his dad was. Our GS is grown and his dad doesn't understand what went wrong. (Duh!) BTW, his dad is D again and living with another girl.

Anyway, I know that you living what is right......will teach the boys all they need to know. It is not so much in what you "say" to them, but just living "right" before them is what matters.

I love you girl! I miss you, but I am so happy that you are in the place you are. You will continue to get stronger and this time next year......I want you to come tell me about that birthday party!!

Love,
Sandi


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!