Hi Hopeful,

I am glad u were able to end the day on a more reflective note. I am working on that myself today.

First, let me start by saying that I think it was awesome that u said no to the meeting! I don't know if I could have done that...

About the OW, I would think it over several times before calling her cuz on the one hand she could feel shame & if all the stars ate alligned she may take herself out of the picture. But on the other hand H can feel "protective" of OW .....YUCK! & if she was a person with any character, she would have felt shame when this all started with ur H. She obviously got over that! If u think she instigated the A with H, then it may be worth it. Otherwise, the price u would pay seems too much to me. Obviously your call,this is just my 2 cents

About the text , OH MY totally my worst fear & have done something similar via text Msg..,,,I agree with everyone else..,u need a support system to deal with the crap he's dumped on u & then walked away. He has no right to tell u HOW u can handle it. Totally agree with u on that one! What Nerve!
And finally I have to agree Kara on what & how u want to see urself handle this crisis when u look back on it 10 years from now. I know I want to fight for my M - no doubt in my head or my heart. But no matter what I have a vision of who I am striving to be...& not even my H is going to deviate me from my path!

For me & from what I have read of other WAS , they no longer want the "responsibility" of a wife & M ...... And when I think about that it still totally makes me livid! But, the only way to really battle this is to give them exactly that & in the process you become a better person & when they get around to seeing how independent u are & they can no longer blame u for their life crisis- the fog may finally start lifting.

Ok....enough of my babbling - I really just wanted to say hi & this idea that kara gave me about chamomile tea is great! I put. Some cinnamon flavored honey ! It really does the trick!

Have a good night's sleep!


Me: 35 , H - 38
M: 3.5 yrs
R: 8 yrs
Separated: 4/28/09
Divorced: 9/11/09