To tell her that "no man" can sleep with a woman and not make advances does NOT help here. Helping her to cope with the emotional sledge hammer involved with this is what we are supposed to be doing. Helping her to understand that this is something wrong with HIM is our job. Saying what you said to her could lead her to believe there must be something wrong with her, was that your goal, I hope not.
Ian, thank you. I hope this helps Kalni. It did help me. I shared a bed for 3+ years with a H who refused physical intimacy with me. I finally quit asking because the pain of rejection was just too much. I do realize that it was his problem, but I still felt emotionally crushed. You have it exactly right.
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Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
