I'm back, and he's moving out

[lola485]

Wow, this is just so weird. I've been helping h today with getting internet and everything set up for his new apartment. We still manage to laugh and joke. Unbelievable. Somewhere along the way in our years together he began to view me as his buddy, his best friend. Not his wife and romantic partner. He commented today that it is just so cool that I'm helping him. The fact is we are best friends. I can't imagine us not being that. But what I struggle with is if I'm ok with being that, or do I try to make my marriage work? Maybe they're not mutually exclusive, I don't know. Here's my fear...if I cut him off from any relationship with me once he moves, I know he will miss my friendship, but he'll be getting the heady romantic stuff fulfilled. If I continue to be he friend and show the strong character I have and that he loves, will the romantic feelings eventually come back?

Folks, I really need some advice here. I just don't know how to proceed. I want him out, definitely. Because I know that things cannot continue the way they are, and I think we will both benefit from time apart. I'm just not sure how to proceed from there. Please if you have been in this sitch, I need some input!!!