How Do You Forgive?

[eternaloptimist]

Working on forgiveness when I just found out two weeks ago about H's "emotional affair" with his therapist. How do you do it? H basically wants me to be OVER it already in order to move forward with any hope for anything to recover. He gets mad and says that I will never let him forget it, so he says why bother working on the marriage? Is this HIS guilt talking to me?

Both deny it was anything more than a friendship but therapist professed WAY too many feelings for my H in an email, so I think she was basically targeting him for the affair.

Any advice on how to quickly move past this? I don't think there was any sex involved. But there have been so many lies upon lies. When I discovered their inappropriate relationship, he even tried to cover up the "friendship" by telling more lies because he's supposedly afraid that his therapist would lose her job.