Of course, that's ridiculous. She should have emailed you her changes to let you know. Common courtesy. I know we've discussed this but not for a while, and I really think that's that projection thing. She has weaknesses and projects them on to you. Like my H telling me I'm controlling??? I don't really understand it, but it does some like some people really do that.
H and I have been communicating by email 99% of the time and that works out so much better. If she starts harassing/haranguing you I think you should suggest she email you re: any issues that relate to the kids. Most of the time they don't seem to be! And then walk off or something and leave her standing there like a psycho if she keeps it up. I think she loves to egg you on, so she can say, see I had to have an A and Divorce, it's all his fault. Blaming instead of taking responsibility. I think that's going to cause problems for her long-term. It's so easy to see how dysfunctional she is and feel empathy, but I know when they're causing so much grief it's hard to do that. Sometimes impossible. Karen
I don't really understand it, but it does some like some people really do that. 
