Snodderley, thanks for your message; I have been away with my D and my mum for the last few days........it has been interesting.....i always love hearing from you and it offers me such comfort in what you say. my WAH dropped off D7 at home last Saturday and we preceded to drive to Killarney, County Kerry IRL. Had dinner in our hotel and went to sleep. I woke Sunday morn, had a shower and had the most agonising pain; I cant remember much but apparently I dropped to the floor and lost consciousness. the next thing I knew was that two ambulance people were there and I was taken to hospital for all of Sunday and Monday morning. My mum had to ring my WAH who drove the hour and a half to meet her and our D, then he drove them all to see me in hospital. i was in a huge amount of pain. he popped into see me twice, very uncomfortable. I was in pain, physically and emotionally seeing him. I said i didnt fully understand why he was there; he replied, i am not a barbarian, i care about you and i care about your mother. i replied that i was grateful for him being there to support my mum and d but in terms of cre for me all i could see was the man, that i married and love, cares for me but.......he obviously doesnt. he was angry and said that continuing the conversation would be good for neither of us so he then walked out.......again, this is the second time he has done this to me in hospital. He then proceeded to have a chat with my mum outside; he was going on about how I have subjected him to mental cruelty for five years, how I have been suicidal, that I told him that i was going back o Oz (my home country) to die f cancer, that I have been a negligent mother and that people have been horrified by my actions over the years etc. How can he do this to my mum, who is so overwrought and exhausted, overweight and battling chronic high blood pressure. My mum looked as if she was going to drop yesterday and he went on with these lies and ravings? Why, after five months, is he still talking about these things? Anger? Not indifference surely? He is harbouring so much about me..... He also admitted that the OW he has known as a friend for 10 years. I cant remember him ever mentioning her to be honest but it does add a different slant on things; not someone completely new........he also mentioned to my mum that it wasn't an important, high level relationship, whatever that means. I also had a visit from my SIL in hospital yesterday. She absolutely let go, saying that I have to show him what i am made of, that i am a better person than all of this, that i have to stand tall and be proud......she also thinks his R with OW is a car crash waiting to happen; my H turned to her for comfort and that it wont last, because he flung himself so quickly into it from the marriage itself. She is urging me to stay strong and go for my life without him that the M is over and i have to say good riddance. now my focus has to be my little girl,and she is absolutely right. He had our D today, when my mum and i got home from hospital (my h had our D7 stay with him and her half sister in his XW's house last night) he completely ignored both mum and myself. even after sil was on the phone to him to warn him about my mums health he didnt ask how she was left alone me......straight out of hospital and he couldn't even look me in the face let alone speak to me. sorry for the rant but this is getting difficult; is he confused? or merely resolute that he wants nothing to do with me and our marriage/r over the last decade...... advice?
i will be posting in a few hours on other peoples threads......thanks for your support everyone; this website has been and continues to be a life changing experience. innish xxxx
