Response that I was "way off on this John thing we are not having an affair just good friends".
RULE NUMBER ONE - ALL ADULTERERS LIE
How do you know if they're lying? Their lips are moving. The very last thing you can use to determine whether an affair is taking place is the suspected adulterer's word. You need to verify independently.
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She's giving me clues that she is not with OM - actually calling her girl friends in front of me to make plans. The texting is still there, but apparently no face to face this weekend with OM.
This is just smoke blowing mate. She is doing this stuff to reassure you and to shut you up so you get off her back - it's called gaslighting.
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I'm sure some of what she said when confronted about the A was just lashing out - she was caught, and she knew it.
What does your gut tell you? I know what mine tells me - that's exactly what she was lashing out about. I had no idea about the level of deceit to which an adulterous wife would stoop to propagate an affair. It's highly addictive - think crack addiction.
Listen to Puppy. The only way you're going to deal with this is by taking a very hard line - i.e. by manning up. Listen to what Puppy has to say.
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
