Divorced - It's only a piece of paper but I am sad

[job]

True,
You are getting more and more independent and stronger. Go girl!

I like the fact that went across to the neighbors. It shows them that you aren't afraid to take care of yourself. I have one neighbor that deliberately goes to his shed, opens the blinds and watches me mow. He's too stupid to realize that leaving the doors open, the shadow is shown clearly the window. He has done that twice to me this week...what did I do? I smiled and waved at him...blinds closed very quickly and back in the house he went. I don't know what people get out of trying to get in another's business. I don't know about you, but I've got other things on my mind and just keeping my own business in check is enough for me.

You are an inspiration to all of us. Keep up the good work. BTW, I liked your comments to your xh. He's seeing a different side of you these days. It keeps him on his toes.

[Truelove]

Hi Snodderly,

Thank you for your encouragement.

I had to laugh at your story about your neighbour. Like you, I also mind my own business. I am not interested at all in what the neighbours do since I am not a nosy person and I couldn't care less what they are up to. Thank goodness I have some other neighbours who think like I do.

BTW, I liked your comments to your xh. He's seeing a different side of you these days. It keeps him on his toes.

Regarding XH something happened which I didn't expect. He wrote to me asking for some information and also mentioned that he thought about my garden. He suggested what I could do so it would block out my neighbour's view into my garden!

I was so surprised that he gave me and my problem any thought. I didn't ask him for any advice on that.

Is this also the way you expected him to react?

I had a lovely day with one of my GFs. We went up a hill in our area to have a lovely view of the water front.

I wish you a lovely week.

[happynow]

Hi True,

Snodderly, I love what you did with your neighbor! I'm like the both of you, I don't like to be nosy, what my neighbor does or doesn't do in their yard is their business, not mine. I do have a nosy neighbor but so far he has not told me how to do anything. He & his wife are an older couple & they sort of watch out for me, especially when I'm gone, which is very nice. They do comment on what a great job I've done with the yard & how nice it looks. They say it looks better since I've been doing it than when my ex was here.

True, I'm glad your ex made some suggestions about your garden. That is good that he is being nice to you now. I'm so glad as I know you are also.

I'm so proud of you getting out & GAL. You sound like you are doing well. I know you still have those days but at least you are doing something.

((((HUGS)))))

[happynow]

Hi True,

Thank you for posting to me! I hope you have a great weekend!

(((((HUGS)))))

[Valentine]

Hi True! Hope you're doing well!!!!

Hugs,
Vali

[Truelove]

Hi nlt,

Thank you for your kind words and your wishes. Regarding the neighbour I always make sure these days that I chat to him and his wife when they are in the garden, so that they can see how awful it is to have no shrubs anymore – LOL.

Yes, I am happy that my XH was nice to me. He wrote once more with yet another suggestion but I didn't react to it. I want to go dark and not be in constant e-mail contact so he can see how life is without me. I would also like to see how long it will take him to contact me. He will surely write again if he needs something.

Hi Vali,

It is lovely to hear from you.

I had quite a nice week so far. On Thursday I went to a live concert with my GF which we enjoyed. Then on Friday I had TWO dates. In the morning I finally met a guy I wanted to meet for some time. He is quite nice BUT he told me that he is unhappily married but not for much longer, i.e. it sounded as if his wife was in MLC and/or rejecting him, and that they live together only because of the kids. - It all sounded so familiar to me: The love of his life is rejecting him. - It made me so sad but I didn't show it. I would like to write a letter to his wife telling her what I experienced and that she should rather work at their marriage than throw it all away! - But who knows if it is true. I learnt not always to believe what men tell you – sad but true. I only met him briefly since he was busy and I have no clue if or when I will see him again.

Then I met another guy in the evening. We have the same interests. That's why we decided to meet. He sent me a picture and I thought he would be a few years younger than I but he didn't want to tell me his age which I found strange. So when I actually saw him I got such a shock since he was so baby-faced. He is about 15 years younger than I and also looks younger than he actually is! I felt really silly walking in the street with such a young guy. Although he was very nice and interesting to talk to, I told him that I couldn’t imagine having an R with somebody so much younger.

The awful thing was that yesterday I was so nervous to meet these guys. I have no clue why. And when I got home I felt terrible and depressed. I keep thinking that I never appreciated what I had, took it all for granted and didn't nurture my R with XH. I would have to have so many different men in order to find all the traits my XH HAD pre MLC. He was so versatile and we had so much in common and thought alike in almost every way.

My GF told me that I would have to adjust to the people who "are on the market" if I ever wanted another R. I find that so difficult. I kept thinking that I am better off by myself and detached.

I also have no wish to do some work in the house. I seem to have a mess everywhere which I really don't like. But somehow I cannot pull myself together to finally clear it all up and do some cleaning. The only thing I did was working in the garden. At least I did some clearing up today but never as much as I would have liked to. It will also have to be one thing at the time just like one step at the time!

Tonight I was supposed to go to some festivities on the water front but we had bad thunder storms and hail again and it cooled right down. So I stayed at home. I hope that the weather will be better tomorrow as I would really like to go.

I wish everybody a great week-end.

[Truelove]

One good thing happened though: I bought a new dress and two young guys who were at the concert told me how super it looked. I was very pleased.

[job]

True,
Two young guys paid you compliments? Wow! You must have looked hot! Didn't it make you feel good?

I have to say that you are certainly staying busy and enjoying life a bit and I'm glad you are doing that. You really need to start a journal so that you can write a book later on. You've had quite a number of adventures along the way!

We've had quite a number of storms over the last week and it looks like rain is in the forecast again for this week. Enjoy your week!

[glamgirl]

TL it sounds like quite the adventures with the dating. I hear you on the not finding anyone like your h. You will need to cultivate a R all over again and it will never be the same. It will be different, but maybe not a bad thing.

You must have looked HOT! Enjoy that attention! Must be nice!

Interesting that your xh is still contacting you. Obviously he is still thinking of you.

[Valentine]

The awful thing was that yesterday I was so nervous to meet these guys. I have no clue why. And when I got home I felt terrible and depressed...I kept thinking that I am better off by myself and detached.

Hmmmmm.... I feel the exact same way...must be a phase or something that we are going through...Like they are not the right one and it is so depressing...I too feel the samw way...I think we should just keep breathing and not date if we don't feel like it...if the Aussie goes away or whatever, I think I am taking a break from it all...just to give myself breathing room...so nice to not be so hung up on anyone for a change...just to BE and to be OKAY with that.

I also have no wish to do some work in the house. I seem to have a mess everywhere which I really don't like. But somehow I cannot pull myself together to finally clear it all up and do some cleaning. The only thing I did was working in the garden.

Jinkies! I think we're twins...you should see my house! It is a train wreck....yesterday I just laid around...watching girly movies or the History Channel...and ate mango sorbet and chips and salsa and the Diva and I just did NOTHING. I only watered the plant on the patio! I MUST clean my house...

I have been invited to a friend's for dinner...so I will probably go...and I am off to church in a bit...so must run...

I am sure you looked fabulous in your dress!!! I love it! and TWO YOUNGER MEN!!!! jinkies! Most excellent! Wish I could have been there!!!

Enjoy the day!

Hugs,
Valentine