WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[sandi2]

PS - glad you're feeling better and for stopping by with your club!

LOL.....anytime. But I must have read your post too quickly b/c I did misunderstand about having the children Sunday....so I do apologize for that one. I can understand how easy it is to tell kids too much.....I really can, but I hope you can take my "experienced" advice and be very careful what you say b/c we don't see it from a little child's POV.

I don't follow the strategy of telling her to do whatever she feels she has to do and not to try to change her mind. Now remember, I am, as you had pointed out, a DAM :-p

Nothing hard about it. It is the same thing I have told you all along......"drop the rope". I think she protesteth too much! I feel that she is telling you this same old stuff over and over to work you (as I said before) like a puppet. At any rate, from where I see it, that is the best route to take. I know you think you have dropped the rope.....but in your heart you haven't. When you truly drop the rope you will be able to feel peace and not worry and be able to move forward with you life whether it includes her or not. Until you reach that level of mentality, you have not really dropped anything. The point is this......SHE KNOWS IT! I may be as wrong as sin, but I think if you were to call her bluff.....she would make a turn about face quicker than you could blink. If she thought you really did not care if she divorced you or if you "wanted" a D, then she would suddenly see you as unavailable to her and you would become more attractive and she would want you IMHO. I am just thinking like a female. You guys may be a DAM, but we are just plain crazy in how we think! Stop and think about this. If there is no other man in the picture, why would she want to D you? Oh, I know all those old excuses she is using, but I don't buy it. If you have not seen any of the MLC symptons in her (and I don't know that I have) then what is the deal with her? Women don't usually get a D unless there is another person, abuse, MLC, or just can't take living with no love in return. She may think you don't "listen" to her, etc., but she knows you LOVE her. So again, I ask you.......what is the real deal with her?

Talk later,
Sandi