Just echoing John and Jeff's posts. I agree completely.
Enough is enough and he has to make you WANT to try and make you WANT to stay.
He seems to me as a man who is so internally conflicted w/his sense of self that he doesn't know what to do.
Question? How low is H's self-esteem? Is his view of himself pretty low? Just curious as if it is low, then he may be unknowingly putting himself through a self-fulfilling prophecy where he subconsciously doesn't feel like he's good enough to deserve a good, loving family and marriage, so he's doing things to sabatoge it so he can be able to say "See, I told you I'm unlovable."
Why do I ask this and look at this as a possibility? Because I was that man once who sabatoged my relationships w/out knowing I was doing it. Only help and therapy led me out of that never-ending cycle and on to a path where I could see myself as a pretty good guy and a great catch.
Since that realization, I've been able to "walk the walk" and have been enjoying my life in my own skin ever since.
So, I guess, I'm saying that if your H has issues, he'll continue to disappoint you and himself until he gets himself some real, lasting help.
I'm not sure any of us could wait around for that to happen.
RTL PS - I know you've said in Greece it takes a year for a D to become final, correct? Have you thought about filing and moving forward with this? My question is because if H was ever to make a move, he'd be forced to do so if there were papers filed, etc. I'm not suggesting you to do this as a "bluff" but as a decision for you to move on. If H doesn't respond to your filing, then you'll know that you are making the right choice for sure. Again, just a thought.
