From the outside looking in, these emotional outbursts have to stop. Do not agree to the divorce, have him know that you are not on board with that, he thought you were on board with it before and now you are lying to him again about it.
It is time to be a better you, work on yourself, because from what I am hearing there is a bunch to work on.
The resentment of him must stop if you want to work on a healthy relationship. Truly forgiving him for where you are now is the first step, and a big one at that. Only then will you be free to go forward to what you ultimately want, if it is not too late. Look to the future and forget about the past.
You do have things going for you because of his inability to move out, and his professed love for you, that is an oddity around here. Time to put 180's that work in place. Like being pleasant, working out, getting a life outside of the house. And quit being so bitter about everything, I know that some places seem to suck, but even the nastiest towns have nice areas and fun things to do. Start to be more like your name, and not the eternal pessimist that you come across.
