Now I see your sitch. In my experience with my mom and from what I've read borderlines seldom ever change. Also, IMO they are just not able to LOVE like normal people do. People are mere pawns in their games.
I was in an online support group for three years with women whose mothers were BPD. Let me tell you, getting full custody would be the best thing that could happen to DD.
My mother emotionally, physically and verbally abused me. She allowed her husband to try to sexually molest me and get away with it and continued to live with him. EVERYTHING was always all about her. He was physically abusive to me as well. I didn't even tell my own father until I got married.
I was about 30 before I learned how to deal with her- which was to limit my exposure and hang up on her if she started raging. The worst thing they do is rewrite history- you know what happened but yet when they retell it it comes out completely different. That makes you think you're crazy!
Seriously IMO no borderline needs to be a mother- they are just not capable.
