In Utter Agony...Long 1st Post

[eternaloptimist]

Oh, just to add one point of clarification...even though he is the one who wants the divorce, he refuses to move out b/c we can't support two households. He is at the proverbial "fork in the road" with working on the marriage vs. divorce. Financially, it would be a disaster for us b/c we owe more on our brand new house than it is worth. We'd have to file for bankruptcy. He knows that and wants to look at our finances soon.

So I think he just wants to co-habitate for...well...for as long as we need to! He'll be happy with just getting back to a "place of peace," but that equals death to me b/c I've been living like this for almost three years now. That has been slowly killing me b/c it means that I can't move on with my life. I want to find a new husband and have more kids before I'm too old.