Hey, just read through your sitch, and as usual most here can find shared similarities. I also deal with hearing the "the marriage is over, you need to move on" I actually hate hearing it. You mentioned at one point that you felt things would come back together and I feel the same way about my M; at times. My W is really confused I am not sure where her mind is at or has been. I really appreciate this forum b/c I have found so much insight and support I feel it should be a retreat for couples or persons thinking about getting married. I think my W is being supported in her actions by family and friends while she convinces herself and those around her of who I am not. I am more than sure she is not getting any sort of backlash that she is M, she's more than likely being supported in her efforts. Misery loves company. I think that happens alot with a WAS. Also just like you, I have maintained the household finances although my W does work; well use to work. I wish that over the years I would have given her more responsibility but on the other hand, she will see what it is like out here if her family or some OM doesnt rescue her. This separation/limbo is still a tricky area for me. So I wish you the best. I am also doing my best to GAL and detach. They are a constant for me. We have no kids so there is rarely any communication. Also, at one point, I thought that would have made a difference in holding things together but I see it hurts and adds more complexity. With that said I commend you as well as anyone in the forum having to swim over those waters.
_________ ME 36 W 30 no kids T 11 M 5 Separated July/Aug 08
