Hummmm..... 6 kids.... that's a lot of potential child support there. Do you think you are better off with him, or without him? Both emotionally and financially? It's easy to think you'd be happier without your spouse if they haven't been trustworthy. I used to think that after the first A, but later I realized that with my children, and the negatives I do know about him (hey, I could end up totally alone, or with someone with similar or worse problems and that definitely wouldn't be better off!), in the long run I'm better off with him....

I think you should DB. By that I mean that I think you need to work towards being happier, stronger or more secure whether he is with you, or without you. For example, any of us here can lose our spouse tomorrow in an automobile accident, or they could decide to leave for another person, or anything could happen....

So whatever extra time you have I think you should start thinking more about youself and ways you want to improve, and work towards making yourself a better and happier person (like you have time with 6 kids???). Life can always change, and it always will. What are your dreams, what are your goals? Is there anything you want to do in life? Something you want to learn? A career you'd like to work towards?

Life isn't about obsessing about our spouses. Be the best most wonderful person you can be... be the best friend and playmate he'd be an idiot to leave, and then figure, if he's stupid he will lose you (and have some hefty child support at the same time!), then that's his problem. You are valuable... and that's what you need to trust in.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.