DQ, I have been reading the Men are from Mars book! I think you make a good point about the rubberbanding, but it really doesn't seem that way to me (though, goodness knows, I could be wrong!) In sexual terms, he keeps himself stretched out pretty far, lets go on occasion, and then has to stretch back out there again asap to regain his comfort level. I guess it's more like rubberbanding backwards! But he is not able to really talk with me about sexual things at any time, so I guess I am expecting a lot for him to have anything to say on the topic when he has been so exposed. One time I did tell him that I wanted him to whisper sweet nothings, and he seemed to get the idea not to change the subject.
I think you are right about asking him. He is so sweet, and he is really trying to "make me happy." Would it be unreasonable to ask him not to talk about anything else until morning? (We ALWAYS ML at night and sleep soon afterwards.)
