For now, The Wifey, I think I'll continue to follow my adaption of the Spiers Paradigm:
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The only hope you have is to accept the fact that you're already dead. The sooner you accept that, the sooner you'll be able to function as a soldier is supposed to function.
Knowing myself -- and I do, fairly well -- my greatest weakness, the thing that has done me the most harm throughout the entirety of my life, is Expectations.
One reason Herself got so frustrated with me over the course of the M (see Thread #1) was that from her POV I was a "swirling vortex of misery." Well I'm sure there's a rich field to be plowed vis-a-vis childhood on that, but as MWD says knowing what got you where you are only helps you understand what got you where you are. I so easily create Expectations out of all scale to reality that when they aren't met I come crashing down.
For now, I'd rather tamp down the Expectations and just go with what seems to be working. Day-by-day, meter-by-meter, step-by-step.
At a minimum, this will allow me to recalibrate, adjust, reset, revise, re-what-ever-I-need-to-do in the event things move Southwards without nearly as much psychic anguish as I'd have if I went through "but I was doing so good!"
