Just wanted to chime in and say that I just read this book myself a couple of days ago. It is an easy read, and I cruised through it in a day.
Of course, there was so much there that didn't apply to my sitch, since the book assumes that the man has a living breathing sex drive, and the presumtions of Male/Female sex needs are based on that bell curve. But in your case, Cinco, I'm sure it will hit the mark more closely.
What I observed that was *dead on* was the list/progression of consequences for not meeting the wife's/husband's sex needs. Regardless of what mine are, the negative outcomes written were almost 100% spot on for me and what I still struggle with every day. There certainly may be something there for Mrs. Cinco--some connection that you will recognize and begin to correct--that you weren't even attributing to a "sex need".
Also very powerful is the chapter toward the end of the book about God/Spirituality in the bedroom. My H--though he is currently reading Passionate Marriage--still struggles with what I mean when I ask for "intimacy" or for him to "be present". The spirituality chapter made me think of this analogy: God wants us to be "present" and experience true worship when we commune with Him at church--not just sing, recite and go through the motions. Likewise, to have sex and only go through the usual motions without experiencing "connectedness" is, in my present reality, an empty and lonely experience. ....anyway, maybe my H will relate better to that.
Also there is a powerful collection of scriptures which the authors relate to trust/faith in God--that it is His will to heal any sexual problems in the marriage, to His glory and because He is pleased to do so. I took GREAT comfort from that and soaked the entire front of my shirt with tears as I read it.
Anyway, y'all have a great week now! And thanks -B- for the book recommendation!!
