When she asks if you guys are doing the right thing getting the divorce do not give your opinion and try to talk her out of it. Ask her what she thinks. Tell her you want her happy and you want to be friends. Be a great listener, smile and be nice!!! Be someone she will regret leaving.
Do not pursue!!!! Has it done any good? Doesn't she already know you would like to stay together??? What you want is HER her to want to stay together. That needs to be her choice. She needs to convince herself!!! If you try to convince her it will only make her think it's your idea and not hers.... and she will be more likely to keep the D going.
At this time just be a great listener and validate the things she is saying. Do not try to convince her in any way of anything. Just smile and listen, and if she's saying you both will be happier after the divorce, blah blah blah, and you know she's wrong. Don't argue, just say "I hear what you are saying...."
You may not be able to change her mind at this point since time is flying... but make sure you are the kind of guy she will look back and HUGELY regret leaving. Be an amazing friend....
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
