Nope volleydog! He doesn't have any reason to be angry. He moved on and I am too...I did tell him that. It didn't necessarily mean right now, but someday. He doesn't need to know that though. I did tell him that coach and I are just friends so I wouldn't be lying but he doesn't believe me. The guilty dog always barks the loudest.
No he never came on Saturday. Weekends are a big drinking day for him. He probably would have if he could have come over right after his cs day, before beer time. The cs is done now. He will have alot of freetime on his hands on the weekend. It will be interesting.
Volleydog, you can read him so well. Thank you. I appreciate your help.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I know I am going to get a few 2x4's here but I need to confess. I was thinking all night about the ride for exh situation. Part of me was considering what it would be like. What the heck!? Why am I thinking that way? He has run rampant over my life and I would consider doing this for him? He hasn't changed. He just doesn't have a woman able to help him right now.
When do these thoughts go away?
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Are you thinking about helping him because it would give you time with him? Answer this honestly.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
I have no idea. Possibly so. Its so wrong on all levels.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I think if you start giving him rides, he will eventually worm his way back into your bed. The sad thing will be that you will hope it's because he actually cares about you and loves you, but the reality will be that he is only using you, and just wants a warm place to put it.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Yes it is, it really does nobody any good. He got himself into the situation where he needs rides let him figure it out.
Well..this may have been before you followed my thread, but he holds me responsible for his DUI. I called him in that night. Long story short he was crawing to his truck..I warned him and he got angry and left. He drank and drove this way all the time. At least 3 or 4 times a weekend. Completely intoxicated. It was the only way I knew how to keep him and everyone else safe. Begging, pleading, threatning, crying, bargaining didn't work.
So, not sure what the motive is behind me giving him the rides but im not going to.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
So, not sure what the motive is behind me giving him the rides but im not going to.
Isn't the motive he doesn't want to walk and currently doesn't have someone else to do it? Maybe the various OW and XW1 are tired of shelping him around and he figures he can guilt and charm you into it?
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Listen to the SO2. And, stop blaming yourself for his DUI. HE got himself that DUI. Just because you were protecting everyone from him....you warned him...he did it anyway. Stop it.
Whatever you decide...really think about it. It's just more time you are going to have to deal with him. You NEVER seem to feel good after being around him. Remember that. We definitely have a tendency to SAVE these men. You don't need to be his taxi, sweetie.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
Ok, new development and I am feeling alot of anxiety.
He just sent a text "I have court at the end of the day just so you know"
I just said ok.
Must be for his DUI. Omg, I am so anxious, nervous and guilty. I have no idea why he is going back. I have a pit in my stomach.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
