Originally Posted By: The Wifey
Can you have the same mojo if you aren't convinced you are already D? If you can't just be fixated on that and have to straddle the limbo pole a bit?


It's Hard. It's Really Hard!

- As soon as you think things are improving, you suddenly realize that you DO have something to lose - and start being afraid of losing it! (Fear)

- As soon as you start seeing some improvement, you start expecting more, and get frustrated when things stop or revert! (Anger)

- As soon as the WAS starts showing pain, your instincts for caretaking kick in (Pursuit)

- WAS backs off and you feel the loss all over again (Pain and Sorrow)

The DB methodology doesn't give much guidance here except "Stay Strong", "Take it Slow", etc., It

It's difficult, but it is still an improvement over where you are /were.

We'll all have to figure it out together...

Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2
M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08
Walking away from a bad situation.

My Sitch

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