New and Sad

[The Wifey]

Thanks,


5)try to stop my negative thoughts.


Thanks for the insight guys. Bear with my non-PMA...it will come back I know it!!!

Nicole,

You don't have to stop them. You can think them and then calmly ask yourself what to do with the thoughts. Not every thought and action has to be acted on.

I recommend you take note of everything around you. The sunrise, the taste of wine, flowers, the kids. Be observant and think about the things you see.

Go fishing, go camping, do something. Go and do and experience (even if what I suggest isn't your cup of tea.) The idea is to get out there - there is a big world out there.

Every day make a list of what you are going to do that day. Keep busy. Always make a plan, but include time to relax and have fun on every list. It is ok to fake it until you make it.

You are early in this process and you don't know the game plan yet. Its good he is looking at photos. Let him be sad. But let him figure out what he is going to do with the feelings.

You want him to come home more than anything, but you want him to do some growing, and you need to grow, before that happens.

The most important thing is to have patience with yourself. None of this seems natural and it will take time for it to.