Hi,

Sorry you are in your situation, but you have found a great support site. Keep posting in this thread for support.

First, have you read DR? If not, get a copy and read it ASAP. Consensus here is NOT let spouse see/read it. It is your tool to get R back on track.

With that said, if you truly love someone, set them free. Work on you during this difficult time.

Is it better to be gone and let spouse miss you, or be in his space and be a focus for his blame?

He is choosing to leave. Let him deal with the natural consequences. Go take care of you. Get a massage, a facial, your nails done etc.

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712