I'm new at DB and don't know if this is a new thread.My WAH left 2 weeks ago. We were together 4 years, married about 9 months. No kids together. I'm 40, he's 43. He has 9 year old autistic son, who I'm very close with, from a previous marriage. Long story short, he had been unhappy for awhile, thought I was insecure, controlling and pushed his buttons. I admit, I had some issues. But I don't think I'm the sole reason for our difficulties. He could be sarcastic, critical and immature. Right now he blames me for everything. I just validate his feelings and tell him that it's important to become friends again.
Right now, he doesn't even want to be friends. After he left, he changed his myspace status to single. I was devastated and thought he was moving on, so I went on match.com, as "separated", to look for companionship. Well, he discovered that and deleted my name from his FB, (we were listed as married to each other).
I've started GAL, but it is so hard! I miss him so much! He never calls, etc. To make matters worse, he's living in an RV outside his ex's house to be near his son until he moves into the house he's rented. I know he has no feelings for her, but I always kind of resented the friendship they have.
H won't go to counseling with me. He did bring my stepson over last Friday. H was distant, so I just gave him space. XW called few times wanting H to bring son back. She thinks it's confusing for son to be around me. H told her that he would let son decide if he wants to stay overnight or go back to his mothers. Well, my stepson wanted to stay overnight, H slept on couch, of course. Next morning, XW calls and is very angry with H and wants him to bring S back immediately. I haven't heard from H since. I did send him a short email thanking him for bring S over and also mentioned that I think the separation is easier and less confusing for my stepson when stepson and I spend time together.
So the XW is further complicating this separation. My H is moving into his rental this week. I told him I would help him, but now not sure if that's a good idea. Any advice on whether I should be here when he moves out and the 180's? It's hard since he never calls or emails. He hasn't filed for divorce.
