What to do

[GoBison]

Ok so I have been trying to DB and have spoken with a DB coach however I don't have another session for a while. Decided with my DB coach last week to try LRT. We still live in the same house and occasionally sleep in the same bed when she doesn't sleep on the couch. This past weekend was rough for me though. I did follow through on the LRT pretty good though. Wife called friday and left voicemail when I was at the bar saying that she was going to meet one of her girlfriends at the bar and that she would call later and we could go bowling or something. So I texted her back two hours later and said ok. She didn't call so I called her another 3 hours after the text she sounds happy and wants to me to pick her up at the bar in about an hour. I was fairly close by and decided to just stop by and give them a lift. Well she then seems a little distant more than on the phone. We get home and are getting ready for bed. She goes to sleep on the couch and I begin to ask her what is wrong with the response that nothing is and she just wants to watch tv. So not very good dbing there. The next day she goes for a run and is working in the house while I am out in the yard. I actually left for about 4 hours and just did some other stuff without telling her where I was. When I get done she is laying on the couch with a migraine so I leave to go over to my sister which she was planning to go to as well. I did not call or talk to her at all while I was gone and came back 6 hours later. When I get home she is watching a movie with one of her friends. I try to ask if she is better and make small talk mainly with her friend as she really didn't want to talk to me at all. Sunday more of the same she left to go kayaking and I went and did my own thing. I did not ask her what she was going to do she just told me which isn't unusual. She called when she got home as I was not there yet. And asked what I was doing etc. Told her that I went out to eat and everything. I stayed away for about 45 minutes when she called and asked if I wanted anything to eat and she already knew that I went out to eat. Then when I do get home she just layed on the couch and watched tv or sat on the computer without saying very much to me at all. I did not want to start the conversation or anything like that as one of the DB steps is to say less than they do and let them start the conversation. So instead of sitting around I was keeping busy packing for a bachelor party that I am going on and doing whatever else. A couple of times I would sit around on the other couch but no words from her. I acted completely as if and acted happy. The whole time she looked like she was completely depressed.

Long story for a short question. The question is whether or not I should be using this technique as it really seemed to depress her when she was at home and not wanting to talk or do anything. I really don't like seeing her like this and if there was anything that I could do to make her feel better I would have immediately. Has anyone else experienced this. Maybe she is reconsidering the things she has said and is feeling bad or is she just trying to make me mad so that I can make it easier on her? I really don't know but seeing her this way is really killing me.