Miss the guy that is trying to break up your family? Hey, it is time to let him go, turn your back on him and treat him just like another person that you have just met. I know that is easier said than done, but it is imperative that you detatch, it is the way to be a better you, for yourself and your two children.
I use this one a bunch, but it really does apply, have you ever chased a dog, he will run and run while being pursued, but once you turn your back and walk away, he starts to follow you.
The waste product of this little chemical reaction, many times is a spouse that comes back, the main product is a better you.
Burt
Well said dburt!
However, those feelings of missing him, they just have to move through. They can't be suppressed or judged or denied. You have to know that you can have them AND move forward. When you think about not missing someone, you are still thinking about them...I mean you just have to focus on other things and moving forward.
I miss a man who is acting like a flippin' moron. Most of us here miss people who are behaving unfavorably (understatement). I think it has to be ok. Just a feeling that comes and goes. It is ok. Real detachment seems to rightfully take time. I guess we fake it til we make it but expecting to detach fully and eliminate the feelings early on I think is a lot of pressure to put oneself under. Watching people on these boards, I see that it takes time for the feelings to match the behavior.
