PM Thread #6 - New Life for Number1 - Me

[PositivelyMommy]

Thanks Yoyowife and Kev for your support.

It has taken me a long journey to admit that perhaps H is right in that we are not compatible. He said that I was a planner and he likes to do things off the cuff. I think that is a simple example. He doesn't consider other people's time important. Everything is at his beck and call and I don't want to live like that anymore.

So I am going to change.

I was talking with a my girlfriend and she told me she had made a list of qualities that she would want in her husband. She is already married one year but was telling me about her story.

I had never thought of love this way! It was a brand new idea for me. I met my H when I was very young and didn't go around with a list to match with potential boyfriends.

But this idea makes sense to me now. Why would I want to make mistakes again? I need to ask myself what is important to me and stick with my principles. So here goes, this is just a first draft and is a bit of a trial by fire, pls don't get offended if you read my silly list. I think if I don't have a roadmap, how do I know where I am going?

1) Love spending time with me and my kids, can't wait to get home to us
2) Respect a woman with strong character and principles and is strong himself
3) Romantic and is very touchy feely
4) Respectful of everybody from bus driver to elderly to little kids on the street
5) Giving person who doesn't think men has to be tough and distant
6) Outgoing personality, love to spend time with friends
7) Doesn't drink too much and never smoke
8) Like to exercise (preferably tennis so we can play together) and keep body fit and healthy
9) Not afraid to share emotions, can communicate in words in a mature way
10)Likes trying new foods and cuisine
11)Think that snuggling up at home is the best end to a day
12)Ambitious but know how to balance work and life and family
13) Respect my parents and family members
14)Confident and will speak up for us when people try to take advantage
15) Believe in God
16) Will understand that marriage is forever, not just until it stops feeling pleasurable
17) Take the time to develop relationships in his life including his community at large
18) In charge of his own happiness and not look to others to fulfil him
19) Neat and clean


That's what I have so far. My goodness, does such a man exist, I wonder? It sounds too good to be true. Oh well, one can only hope.