I get it, but I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree on this one. I would be inclined to agree with you if one has good intel that is indicating to them that OM/OW is melting down, getting needy/clingy, etc., but in the absence of that I think one has to err on the side of insisting on no-contact and as ironclad of a transparency plan as possible (and I realize that none are fully bullet-proof).
