Dim to me is where I do not initiate any calls/contact but when we do interact, I show her a happy, positive, caring and attentive CIPA.
Okay, I understand.
About the call on Sunday......first of all, let me say this to you about telling your 7 years old child that you may not be able to keep your house if Mommy doesn't come back home. If I had a club right now, I would use it on you. You NEVER, EVER tell a child that young anything like that! It will cause his insecurities to increase by leeps and bounds. Children are not equipped to deal with adult "business" matters. There is no telling how he may have interpreted that one issue. You are so caught up in your problems and emotions that you are not using wisdom where your children are concerned. Please be careful in the future what you say to them.
Next, if you had the children with you, then you knew her call was not anything about the kids, so you should not have responded. You walked right into that one and further more, I think you knew you would!
Your wife is doing more of the same old---same old, nothing has changed. You are still talking waaaaaay too much in response to her complaining. You want to know what you should do??? I can tell you but you won't do it b/c it would be something you are afraid to do. If it were me, I would call her bluff! All this yacking about her trying to make up her mind and she is just keeping you sitting in the "hot seat" (where she wants you to be) and she keeps calling the shots.........the next time she came up with all this stuff about divorce, I would just tell her to do whatever she feels she has to do and I would not argue with her or try to get her to change her mind. She will play this game as long as you continue to be her puppet!
Got to go to work. Talk more later.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
