"You can't just choose to detach," you wrote. Sure you can. If you want to. That's what the Mojo is for. You pretend you're detached. And after a while the pretending stops being pretending and starts being real.
And you know this to be true -- you go to a job. How we behave on the job -- it's all pretend. It's make-believe. Oh, sure, maybe we've got skills and knowledge -- but that attitude, that persona?
Phony as a 3-dollar bill. Really -- do you think used car salesmen sound like that at home? "Hey! Kids! I'd love to put you into a classic episode of SpongeBob! Now wait! Don't love it 'till you try it! And if you watch SpongeBob today! For the incredibly low price of Free! I'll throw in a Hannah Montana! AND a scoop of ice cream! After I check with my manager!"
No time to catch up. The Divorcee who wants to buy our house is coming to look at it again on Monday (received her financial settlement! SURE WOULD LIKE TO DIVORCE HER H!!!). Oh, and did I mention I have 125 people here tomorrow night for a 6th grade bonfire!?!?!?! EGADS!
Back on Monday, I guess.
SP, LOL! Maybe I should reorganize and clean in a mini skirt?
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Maybe I should reorganize and clean in a mini skirt?
Hey now! You better watch that talk, lady! You're dealing with a verrrrrrrrrrrryyyyyy frustrated fella here! That kind of talk puts ideeeeeears in a man's head! And the good movies don't come on Skinemax for like another 8 hours.....
I just typed for 30 min... an awesomely, funny, sad, squirrelly post (POST three glasses of wine), and I had to pee, so I got up, and tripped over power cord, and lost it all.
FML
Bottom line...
MB is 5'7 and has gained a few lbs. I now require a size 10 jean. My mojo is out the window. Because I feel like a sow.
F*CK i can't retype all of this, and it was GOOOOOOD! Most honest I've been in a year and a half.
FML
OK, In answer to MOJO Q from SP, and MIKE!
Mojo is lost at the door because, H has, traditionally, been a WALKER. 2-4 times per year escapes to our lake house because he chooses not to f*in talk about anythimg, and thinks he can just escape, and come back in a day and things will be fine.
Mojo is lost at the door because, I'm afraid if he comes "back" I may think he's not as f*in cool as I remembered. Who wants to deal with this sh*t? Same sh*t different day kind of thang....
Mojo is lost at the door because, H is KING of detachment. Hasn't spoken to bro's in years... in fact, I've never met them. He can turn OFF the attachment. He might just flee and never communicate again.
F*ck my other post was better...
So, I have a plan, folks...
I called one of my BFF's who hooked me up with some phentramine. I called H (who is at Sam's club buying stuff for 6th grade bonfire now), and asked him to get a case of red bull... I'm losing the 15lbs immediately. I will run my as& off on the tennis court, starting THIS week, eat normally, and lost that damn weight immediately. No mojo if you feel like a SOW!
AND, let's just assume rich b*tch STB DIVORCEE really wants this house... she wants in by labor day. PLENTY of time to lose the weight, get some mojo and APPLY WITH MOJORIFIC MB PRESSURE a LRT. (Sorry, read o-dog's thread... can see H sobbing if he had to help move us anywhere w/out him, but MB IS NOT DOIN IT W/OUT ALL OF HIM). If MB is movin', then we're movin' as a f*in UNIT, not as two separate parents, sleeping in the same bed, hanging off opposite ends of a mattress... Otherwise, we're moving to where "I" can handle on my own.
I have been CLINGY, NEEDY, SOBBY, blahblahblah... UNTIL last Nov when I read DR, found this site, and started to apply principles. I have backslid a few times. (F that, it happens) I have been kind, accomodating, loving, non-clingy,. hot, cold, medium, WHAT ELSE?)
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Cant answer you WHAT ELSE question... I could have used the answer myself. WTH is phentramine and red bull? Does that work for loosing weight? I was a 26-27 jeans last summer, now I am a tight 28... Bummer. THAT IS a mojo killer, thank God H lost that ability long time ago on me. Thanks for posting to me. Maybe we should create are own forum, "Not Married,not alone, not separated forum". xxx K
I just typed for 30 min... an awesomely, funny, sad, squirrelly post (POST three glasses of wine), and I had to pee, so I got up, and tripped over power cord, and lost it all.
ahhhh a post alcohol...post...I'm glad you tripped over the cord...what i thought was my best stuff on here after i drank actually sucked and was pretty needy...more pity party..
I thought you were getting "you" where you needed to be..
which was happy....a happy MB..but i see there is still work to do..
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MB is 5'7 and has gained a few lbs. I now require a size 10 jean. My mojo is out the window. Because I feel like a sow.
I was real tempted here...I know talking to a woman about her weight is a cheeseless tunnel..but i will say this...5'7" and a size 10...don't sound bad to me...if you want to lose then lose it the right way...a pill+RedBull ain't the right way IMO..
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Mojo is lost at the door because, H has, traditionally, been a WALKER. 2-4 times per year escapes to our lake house because he chooses not to f*in talk about anythimg, and thinks he can just escape, and come back in a day and things will be fine.
have you read Mars/Venus?? Here's a news flash....I would hazard to guess that 95% of the male population is this way...men don't talk about their feelings because we were raised as the big strong he-man....also..himn going to the lake house...he's running to his man cave...it's a Mars thing..
read that book..
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Mojo is lost at the door because, H is KING of detachment. Hasn't spoken to bro's in years... in fact, I've never met them.
and what did bro do to him...to piss him off...money?? stole his GF??
I also know why you feel like you must have a plan....I gotta do this..I gotta do that..well if MB would make MB happy and stop worrying about all this other crap then things might just fall right in your lap...
but hey..what do i know...
one more thing....if my wife called me at Sams and told me to bring home a "case" of RedBull...I'd run...I'd run like hell to my mancave...
MB is 5'7 and has gained a few lbs. I now require a size 10 jean. My mojo is out the window. Because I feel like a sow.
Hey, mind? I'm going to go with M here. I think you and I are pretty far apart geographically but I may have to come over and kick your a**. Mojo out the window -- pshaw!
First, size 10 sounds oh-ki-zay to me.
Second (and I don't know HOW MANY TIMES I've had this convo with WAW), and at the risk of a blanket generalization, most men REALLY DON'T CARE. What gets us going is a woman's attitude. Sure, we like the Hugh Hefner-supplied woman -- TO LOOK AT. Just like you like the six-pack-ab guy we'll never be. (There's a reason why Greek statues represented "ideals" of physical beauty, even to the ancient Greeks, friend!)
But in REAL LIFE (and, all the Cosmo/fem-lit nonsense notwithstanding, we ARE able to distinguish between fantasy and reality), if you're happy with the way you look, WE'RE happy with the way you look. You know as well as I do that most of this "do these jeans make my butt look big?" queries about how other WOMEN see you.
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Mojo is lost at the door because, I'm afraid if he comes "back" I may think he's not as f*in cool as I remembered. Who wants to deal with this sh*t? Same sh*t different day kind of thang....
Yes. You have self-awareness, Grasshopper. And if he's not as cool as you remembered, that would mean....what?
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I'm losing the 15lbs immediately. I will run my as& off on the tennis court, starting THIS week, eat normally, and lost that damn weight immediately. No mojo if you feel like a SOW!
STOP! Mojo has nothing to do with weight. One of the most Mojoriffic people I ever met -- a man -- could make best friends out of a room full of strangers in 5 minutes flat. Before he started singing. "Big Twist" (of the Mellow Fellows) -- who's signature song was "300 Pounds of Heavenly Joy" -- was a great person. And don't give me that "oh but he was a man" nonsense -- mojo is independent of weight.
Mojo is INSIDE, not outside.
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Mojo is lost at the door because, H is KING of detachment. Hasn't spoken to bro's in years... in fact, I've never met them.
There's an awful lot to chew over here. Not only in terms of DB'ing and your own feelings. I grew up in the Midwest. And the one thing folks always used to say was you could tell what a man would be like as a husband by the way he treated his mother.
Maybe it's different where he comes from. But if this is how he is...it's HOW HE IS.
