Trying to detach from the madness!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

hey, chin up. don't let him guilt you into believing his problems are you fault. you just keep on being cheery and he can be pathetic.

[Startingover2]

hey, chin up. don't let him guilt you into believing his problems are you fault. you just keep on being cheery and he can be pathetic.

HA!!HA!! Pathetic...so funny ST.

He just sent a text that he was working and wouldn't be here. Its a 50/50 guess whether that is the truth or not. Most of the time they are done early on Fridays. Whatever, I can breathe now.

[Startingover2]

Today's delimma:

So, exh sent a text yesterday that he was working late and couldn't make visit. Ok whatever. My daughter gets home a few hours later and asks if exh came for his visit. I said no he had to work. She said "um, no he didn't. I saw him pull into his house at 4:00" (she was at her friends across the street). So he lied.

Last night exh asked what I was doing today after his community service as he wanted to see her then. I just said I didn't know and would let him know.

So, after that full blown lie...do I let him come today? I don't have plans but I don't like to be lied to either.

[kassie]

Is it a normal visit day? You can't let rules slide or he will keep pushing the limits. You need some sanity in your life and rules help.

[volleydog]

He had his chance and choose not to see your D...I'm sure you'll be "out" somewhere IF he ends up wanting to see her.

[Startingover2]

Is it a normal visit day? You can't let rules slide or he will keep pushing the limits. You need some sanity in your life and rules help.

Yesterday was a normal visit day...when he said he had to work late. Today (Saturday) he has visits from 8-10 a.m., but hasn't done them since he has had to do his community service which is ending this weekend. He wants to come late this afternoon.

[Startingover2]

He just sent a text..Sorry.

Thats it. Sorry for what? I didn't respond. I don't want to get into any emotional crap tonight.

Sorry? For what? Hang on, let me go get my list.

[silvagod]

SO2,

He is still trying to remember what he said to you and when and why. I would suspect that he can't remember what his excuses are from one day to the other.

You can rest assured that you are NOT the only one he will be lying to, it's his lifestyle now.

Problem is, you need an EXCELLENT memory to be a good lier...something an A usually lacks...oops for him eh? :P

I'm sure you don't really care either, it's just a constant pain in the neck to you. Get some heat rub and erase that pain!!

[Startingover2]

Silva! I miss you, but I am so glad you are out enjoying your fabulous life! So happy for you.

Well, he is acting strange all weekend with exh. My guess is he is without anyone right now and needs that ego lift. He asked me (via text) what color that coach's car was. I have a feeling that stepdaughter reported to him that I was talking outside to someone in a certain colored car when he was here. I told him. He went nuts. I did say coach was just a good friend anyway. He didn't believe me and said that I couldn't go this long without sex...well I have jerk! I didn't answer that though.

So yesterday he is texting after his last day of community service. He was asking about baby. He asked if I could pick him up every Tuesday night at 8 from his DUI class? I even forwarded it to Blindsided. I was shocked. I never answered the question, but we ended up engaging in a conversation. Of course he misses us and loves his family but I am happily moved on. I finally stopped it and went to bed.

I cannot believe he asked me for rides. Oh, wait I can! He is such a snake. He doesn't have one sincere bone in his body!

[volleydog]

He went nuts. I did say coach was just a good friend anyway. He didn't believe me and said that I couldn't go this long without sex...well I have jerk! I didn't answer that though.

Really he has the nerve to go nuts. It's none of his business anyway, unless I'm missing something.

I assume he never came over on Saturday. In some ways I feel sorry for this guy. He is either going to die from the alcohol or he's going to "get it" but it's probably going to be too late.