PM, you're doing incredibly well under the current circumstances. You really seem to have a good outlook on this and you really sound as though you're in a healthy mindset.

I agree with what you and the others on here have been saying. You're completely right to let your H and your MIL take responsibility for their time with the kids. It just goes to show that people expect nobody to change after things like this. They don't like it one little bit. Your sitch just proved that it's not only the H, W and kids who get affected by a break up.

I'm almost envious that you're in the position you are now. I know you had to go through a lot of hard times to get where you are but I really sense you're now at peace and that's a wonderful thing.

Keep it up PM and keep smiling.

Kev

Me: 32, Wife: 22
Son: 2
Married: 2 years
Separated: January 5th 2009

Sometimes you have to become lost before you can find yourself.