Help! Want direct feedback from walk away wive/s

[GH31]

She admitted today to resumption of but now infrequent phone/texting contact with OM. Says that this contact is an escape from dealing with our current situation and is not impacting at all her ongoing appraisal of our relationship and future. Then states that it would really be great if she could hook up with OM in the future and have a life together (with my kids in another state).

OK BigJohn,

RULE NUMBER 1 - ALL ADULTERERS LIE

How do you know if they are lying? Their lips are moving.

You must accept that whilst your wife is in an affair, you should not believe a single word they say - they lie as easily as they breathe even if they were as good as gold in the years you have known them.

This is what you MUST do. Snoop. Get a keylogger installed on her computer and gather irrefutable, incontrovertible evidence that an affair is in progress. Put the evidence you gather in a safety deposit box. Then, expose the affair without anger and namecalling to your parents and siblings, her parents and siblings, and her employer if your W and the piece of waste adultery partner are employed at the firm. Your kids are old enough to understand that something evil and wrong is afoot. Tell them that their Mum has a boyfriend (without namecalling the OM) and that you feel this is inappropriate.

Simply state facts when exposing.

By not doing this you're telling your kids with your actions that Mum's deeds are OK, and that it's OK to lie.

Your W will be livid with rage but this will subside in a few days. Your M will survive this but it won't survive an ongoing affair. Affairs thrive in secrecy - exposure tends to hasten their demise.

Now. With the evidence you've gathered and kept in a safe place - do not hesitate to show this to a court if your wife starts sabre rattling about taking the kids to another state and away from you. You must protect them from the sleaze and sickness that is adultery - and in the face of incontrovertible evidence the court will be much more likely to take your side.

I have never regretted exposing my wife's sleazy affair. Keep working on yourself whilst doing this and expect little from your wife while the affair is in progress. Be respectful to her, don't get angry or namecall but you must tackle her affair head-on. In my experience, adulterous wives only understand one language and that is "hard consequences".

Man up! Your wife will respect you, even if she gets enraged, threatening etc.